As a pretty crunchy mom I was so nervous about giving birth in a hospital. I thought they were going to force all of these vaccines one me and just pressure me into things I didn’t want. I wanted to go natural and skip the baby vaccines because I personally don’t think a brand new baby needs hep b vaccine or antibiotics in her eyes or vitamin k. I did give her vitamin k because it made me so nervous to think about her bleeding out but the next baby I think I will stick with giving her oral vitamin k. I’ll explain why I caved and gave her vitamin k later.
I actually printed out a pretty severe birth plan, edited and gave it to my doctors, including the baby not leaving the room and I prepped my mom and husband to be my backups. As time passed in the hospital I realized these nurses were amazing and were on my side and one even said to my husband “I don’t blame you” to not agreeing to vaccines. The physicians were the ones who tried to push them the most. And not my main doctor. He did not give his daughter all of the vaccines, “only the ones that would save her life” in his words.
I am glad I did so much research and I can share my birthplan with anyone who would like it.
The actual birth of my babygirl was very easy. The giving of birth isn’t what hurts the most (as far as I can remember), they do say a chemical gets released that makes you forget how bad the pain is. Honestly for me it was the contractions which were in my lower back that hurt the most, and were 30 seconds apart by then. You can see my previous post for what led up to the birth. My labor began as feeling like I had to poo, and within 2 hours my contractions were about an hour a part, by the time I got to the hospital they were 30 seconds a part. Everything was very quick.
I immediately wanted to push but they told me not to as they had to wait for the doctor on call to get to my room and get prepped, which she did quickly. Thank god. The doctor I had was not even in the practice I went to, which was annoying to me because as most obgyns do, they make you see all the doctors in the practice, 32-40 weeks, when you start going to the doctors every other week and then every week.
That was so annoying to me because my doctor’s office in an hour away, and being pregnant, in traffic, having to pee, getting done work early, to see a doctor who hardly touched me for the first few appointments was A LOT. Which was actually better then the internals later, but still very inconvenient. Next time I am going to tell my doctor I just want to see him instead of doing the tour because I didn’t even have any of them in the hospital anyway. And I would have been much more comfortable with my main gyno and not being asked the same questions about vaccines every week.
During those last chunk of appointments they just check your blood pressure and listen to the babies heart beat, if your not high risk. I didn’t have an ultrasound since 20 weeks. I saw one Doctor out of the practice who I hated, and was the only one I absolutely did not want. I cried in my car after my appointment with her, as she tried to fear monger me into getting vaccinated while pregnant. (None of the vaccines are tested on pregnant women or babies under 2). All of the other doctors were surprisingly understanding, as were the nurses in the hospital.
It’s not until the last few weeks that you start getting internals again, when they start telling you if you are effaced or dilated.
My first internal I think was at 35 weeks, which I was not ready for and it made me want to cry, I was already 2cm dialated. Which only made me cry more because I asked the doctor what that means and he gave me an estimate of like 2 weeks for the baby to come. I realized it was happening soon and started to bawl. apparently everything makes you cry when you’re in your third trimester. Or when you’re a water sign. The doctor literally walked out of the room while I was crying, and never told me how effaced I was. I made DH (dear husband) come to the next few appointments with me, which was interesting. Him seeing me get internal exams.
The next 2 appointments I was 3cm and 90% effaced. I started prepping my boss that I might go out early. My one friend said “well, at least your body can do it by itself.”
My main doctor later told me, it doesn’t matter which you are, effaced or dilated, or how much, your not in labor until the contractions start. Effaced is how thin your uterine walls are, and dilated is how open your cervix is. My and DH stopped having sex around that time.
My last appointment, my only internal with a woman, who surprisingly was so much rougher and made me bleed a lot. I think she was the reason I went into labor early. Oh and also because I drank red raspberry leaf tea, which is good for your uterus to drink during pregnancy, and after, and good for your milk supply, but can also make you go into labor I guess! She actually guessed 8.5 lbs and she was right.
Back to the actual labor. I am on the table, waiting to be told when I can push. Husband is holding my left shoulder and hand and my mom is next to him. The doctor is at the end of the bed, and next to her are the two nurses.
Something I didn’t know was you only push when you are having contractions, which was easy for me since they were every 30 seconds. My water never broke so I was asking if I can push because I could feel something coming out. My water sack was coming out of me. Which is basically why I didn’t give birth in the car. They also make you push three times for every contraction for 10 seconds each. As I mentioned in my previous post I am a kegel goddess and could have went much longer. Laughing.
My husband is a personal trainer so he loved helping me count 10 seconds and tell me “go to go!” “You can do it!”. He likes to tell people how magical it was to see my vagina open like a flower and the water sack come out. Gross. Laughing again.
The 6th contraction I felt the baby and I knew someone saw her head. The doctor was trying to stretch me out.
The 7th contraction, she gave me an episiotomy, I’ll get into that later. I felt the baby, I knew she was ready and I was scared to leave her in the birth canal just sitting there. It was like in the movies when you see from the person in the beds point of view looking up at everyone surround the bed, and everyone cheering me on. So I just pushed my hardest and let out a scream. And I felt her shoulders and then the rest of her bloody slide and wiggle out.